Father daughter problems. Please help?

Me and my dad got into a big arguement. I am 14 years old and my dad treats me like a little girl. i feel strangled .......my bestfriend who ive known for 7 years(half my life) lives 3 blocks away. she sleeps over all the time but i cant sleepover there cause she has two older brothers(19 and 20) and that is my fathers "reason" why i cant sleepover there. Then her brothers left off to travel around the country and she lives just with her mom. her dad doesnt live with the family....so she asks me if i can sleepover and i ask my dad and he says no!!! like wtf her brothers arent there anymore...why would he say no. i ask him why and he says "Because i dont feel comfortable" .....i got so pist at him. i have been waiting for 7 years to sleepover. he lets me sleepover other friends houses but not my bestfriend??? he wont let me go to the mall with my friends....he picks me up like an hour early before a party qactually ends. EVERYTIME im with a friend he makes me call him EVERY hour. its ridiculous. he doesnt trust me to have fun.I asked him if i could have guy friends over WHILE HIM being there and he still said no!!! i cant go over any friends house if there mother (not father) isnt there. if there father is there i STILL CANT GO! idk what wrong with my dad. which leads up to what happened last week. we went on a family trip and my cousin whos 19. wanted to drive me around we went to the water park but i couldnt go in(lady issues) so my cousin over to take me home. my dad didnt like the idea but he let me go.....so on the way we decided to stop by a shoe store and burger king. MY DAD GOT SO PIST OFF!! and then we went to the mall and i didnt have any service and my dad let me walk around with my cousin and apparently he was calling me and i didnt pick up so he got super pist at me and i told him i didnt have anyservice. So i had a bad attitude then at home HE GRABS MY ARM AND PUSHES ME TO THE FLOOR INTO THE ROOM. and says " im tired of youre ****" he was so mad he tried to slap my face!!!!!! it wasnt for "discipline" he was doing it out of anger i was screaming get away get away. and i pushed him i started crying and i looked at his face and told him i hated him. its been 5 days since this happened and we havent spoken a word to eachother. idk what to do.....and really im tired of HIS ****. he tries to protect me from the world and he wont let me do anything......all my friends get to have fun but i cant! like howcome everyone else cqan stay late at parties and i cant? OH AND my dad wont let me go over my friends house if he doesnt know who they are.....